Self Improvment

Alexander asked Porus after defeating in the battle of Jhelum, “How do you want me to treat you.” Porus answered, "The way one king treats another."

The answer given to Alexander is still alive and will remain alive for centuries in human memory. The answer, the way one king treats another, shows a quality or attitude (means self respect) which can tide you over all challenges when supports from blood relations, tradition, marriage or professional standing have distorted. This quality comes through recognizing yourself. Self respect is also known as self-esteem, self-worth, self-regard, self-love and self-integrity. Follow the instructions mentioned below to honor yourself:

Build Self-Respect: Accept yourself and you can do this by saying, I accept myself as I am. This is a step towards building self-respect. It includes loving and accepting yourself without leaving anything out. All the bad, ugly & good parts, the past that you want to forget, the hurts, the regrets, the wishes for the future means everything.

Remove External Causes : Go forward to bring changes or improvements for building courage to accept what you cannot. This can include working on your limitations and removing your weaknesses.

Be Positive: Keep away yourself from negative beliefs. Throw out the sentences from your mind – You will never do anything, you are no good, you are too fat, you are too short, you will never value to anything, etc. Make yourself to remain positive and have in your mind & heart that you can do everything.

Stop Pleasing Everyone : All persons are not equal even the fingers of your hands are not of same sizes. It is very hard to please everyone. For example, the housewife tries to please her husband, in-laws and children but sometimes it happens that she fails to please. Another example, a working professional tries to please his or her boss. You can’t please everyone. Try to please but stop pleasing everyone.

Forgiveness : Try to learn forgiveness. Forgive yourself & others and don’t play blame game. Louise L Hay says, “Forgiveness releases us from the past.” He says in his book You Can Heal Your Life, “When we don’t flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means we are holding on to a past moment. It may be regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger, resentment, and desire for revenge. Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go of past. Love is always the answer to healing of any sort. And the pathway to love is forgiveness."

Perfection: Shivi Dua, the author of Let the Power Be with You, says – Most of us aspire to be perfect in whatever we do. This is a good attitude, but not if we cannot accept ourselves unless we are perfect. Accept you are perfect as you are. You’re various experiences, mistakes, actions and victories are the steps towards your evolution. Each step you take towards your growth is not a trip to good from bad but from perfection to perfection. Try to get perfection in what you do.